Help with the "Quiet Querrent"

Tue, 02/14/2012 - 10:12 — fairwinds4linda

I am looking for guidance here. Recently I did a Celtic Cross reading. I went through the reading and created a general story for my querrent because she did not have a specific question. During the reading I would pause and ask if anything I was saying had meaning for her, or if I was helping her to think differently about any situations in her life. Although, she said it did, she wouldn't elaborate and was quiet during much of the reading.

I wondered if I should be doing something differently to pull out more conversation from the querrent to help her get more from the reading. Should I ask closed ended questions, different types of questions? Or, are some querrents just quiet?

Thanks, Linda

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Quiet Querents

Louise Underhill (not verified) - Tue, 02/14/2012 - 11:05.

Some querents are naturally quiet, some don't "engage" as we readers expect. It's natural, don't worry / fash yourself over it :)

If you asked open questions and you didn't get much back, there's not much else you can do.

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Christiana - Wed, 02/15/2012 - 14:24.

Thanks for this smart question, Linda. I pretty much agree with Louise on this one. I know how frustrating this can be, and I know how much better the energy flow is when a tarot reading is an actual conversation.

The thing is, it may be that the querent really enjoyed the reading and found it helpful. Just because someone has few words to share does not mean you didn't help them, or didn't touch them.

You could certainly play around with your reading style in ways that you suggested, asking closed questions, etc, and see if you find something that works for you.

The important thing is to not read anything in to their silence, or let their silence shake your confidence.

I am so glad you are getting some practice! I am sure you are becoming a wonderful reader.

the quiet querent

Joanne - Wed, 02/15/2012 - 17:54.

Sometimes as a reader, you may hit on what she needs to know without it being asked. Some people think they should not say much. Some keep asking question after question. She just may have been absorbing everything you were saying. When I have a quiet client, I'll read what the cards are telling me, and sometimes at the end, they may ask a question, sometimes not. If she didn't complain, I would not be worried. That might only be her personality. Time will tell, especially if she comes back again! But don't worry about it. You did your part, and now it is up to her to do what she needs to do with the information.